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February 5 , 2019

6 of The Biggest Mistakes New Parents Make When It Comes to Baby Sleep

Parents sometimes expect that a child’s sleep habits will change overnight, often leading to unnecessary parental anxiety when a child is not sleeping through the night. It is important to get to know your child’s sleep patterns and identify any unhelpful habits which may be preventing children from developing healthy sleep association.

Here are 6 of the most common mistakes made by parents regarding sleep, and how to avoid them: 

  1. Skipping bedtime routine –having a bedtime routine is absolutely crucial at it helps to set up long term positive sleep associations. Your bedtime can be as relaxed and flexible as your situation and your baby’s temperament allows, but it is paramount that a routine is established. It is also important to avoid switching between multiple training methods, stopping and starting the process, or approaching the routine without consistency and commitment.
  2. Ignoring baby signals –babies send out sleep signals, which need to be learnt and listened to. Such sleep signals include: babies avoiding your gaze, arching their backs and crying. If you miss their natural window for sleep, your baby will not be overstimulated and overtired. It is important to find the age-appropriate wake windows. Pay attention and you will see a pattern develop.
  3. Developing unhealthy sleep associations – being kind, responsive and flexible to your babies need is paramount – but monitor your response. For example, is your “go-to” when your baby cries to always pick them up? Will your baby only sleep on you? Are they always fed to sleep? This could develop into an unhealthy sleep prop and your baby becomes dependant on this behaviour as a result. In order to change your baby’s behaviour, it is important to first change your own.
  4. Too many sleep situations –as much as we want to continue with our lives and insist this little person will not interrupt them, unfortunately, this is not realistic. Your baby requires a constant sleep environment to ensure the best quality sleep is achieved. Too many naps in the stroller or car-seat result in an overtired baby. Trying too many sleep strategies can also confuse a child and also impact the quality of sleep.
  5. Keeping your baby up late in the hope they will sleep in late – a baby’s sleep requirement is so different from ours. A baby’s sleep cycle is shorter, and its content is different (0-6 months old sleep cycle is 45-50 mins, whereas an adult’s sleep cycle is roughly 1.5 hours). The sleep hormone melatonin is also released earlier in the day than in adults, and so parents should avoid forcibly keeping their child awake. 
  6. Paying too much attention to other people’s opinions – follow your instincts! Although other parents and professionals may have useful advice, it is important to remember that you know yourself and your baby better than anyone else. Also, ignore any smug brags about how other children started sleeping through the night when they were only a few weeks old – each child is different. Most babies can’t sleep through the night until at least four months old, and many until at least 6 months. Remember you are not alone and don’t set your expectations too high.

More thoughts.

Another mistake many parents make in those early days, is not being on the same page! This will result in your child receiving a missed message – especially when it comes to sleep. Talk about and agree as to how you resolve sleep issues. When parents trust the process, your baby will trust the process.

Letting your baby get used to one parent.

Your baby is very adaptive and no one parent loves the baby more than the other one. Also, this can only be “shown” by consistent interaction and time. Besides, being part of the nighttime routine is a hugely important part of bonding.

~ Julie Mallon

Sleep Consultant at Nurture to Sleep

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